This is mainly based on one of the talks done by Ajahn Brahmavamso Maha Thero about your relation to a situation.
Personally the thought that a situation or that life itself would be better if something is achieved or if another course of events have taken place has crossed my mind many times.
The realization that this is in fact a waste of time and a delusion was after listening to a talk by Ajahn Brahmavamso Maha Thero who related a story about two people who came to meet him once. One was depressed about her marriage and wanted to get a divorce, she believed that with that she would be able to live happily thereafter. The other lady was depressed about being single and wanted to be engaged in a relationship, she too believed that once she was in a relationship she would be happier.
This scenario shows that these two people wanted what the other had, but what is clear is that both them were unhappy even while they both possess something the other desired. Then he pointed out that it was not the situation in which they were in that caused the suffering but their relation to the situation. It is wise not to look for alternatives but to relate to your situation well and to be at peace with it. The first lady was advised to look at the good in the husband and to talk problems over in a calm manner, while the other was told to look at the brighter side of life.
This story shows that the suffering does not actually end by getting what you want, but it simply transforms from one form of suffering to another form of suffering.
This does not mean that people should not try to improve their living standards and well being. It simply means to be calm with your life, look at it with compassion and to relate well to every situation.
People and myself personally have thoughts such as, life being better if we had a better car, house, job etc. While trying to achieve these things being content and not complaining about your current situation and trying to make the best of things will get you to the top.
What you think you become.
- May all beings be well and happy.
The realization that this is in fact a waste of time and a delusion was after listening to a talk by Ajahn Brahmavamso Maha Thero who related a story about two people who came to meet him once. One was depressed about her marriage and wanted to get a divorce, she believed that with that she would be able to live happily thereafter. The other lady was depressed about being single and wanted to be engaged in a relationship, she too believed that once she was in a relationship she would be happier.
This scenario shows that these two people wanted what the other had, but what is clear is that both them were unhappy even while they both possess something the other desired. Then he pointed out that it was not the situation in which they were in that caused the suffering but their relation to the situation. It is wise not to look for alternatives but to relate to your situation well and to be at peace with it. The first lady was advised to look at the good in the husband and to talk problems over in a calm manner, while the other was told to look at the brighter side of life.
This story shows that the suffering does not actually end by getting what you want, but it simply transforms from one form of suffering to another form of suffering.
This does not mean that people should not try to improve their living standards and well being. It simply means to be calm with your life, look at it with compassion and to relate well to every situation.
People and myself personally have thoughts such as, life being better if we had a better car, house, job etc. While trying to achieve these things being content and not complaining about your current situation and trying to make the best of things will get you to the top.
What you think you become.
- May all beings be well and happy.
1 comment:
True that!! Well said! I am sure if we all could have such a power over our feelings and thoughts everyone would be able to be happy and content with life. :) A wish for the future!
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